Love

Love is natural and spontaneous . Mind doesn't realise the love but the heart. Many bloody wars were fought for love and the epics were written on love. Not only the poets and story writers write about love, but the king, emperor, doctor, moralist, spiritual leaders write and give speech on love. Yet, it has been remained mysterious what love really is. 

Vladimir Nabokov  wrote Lolita presenting love as  outrage and  hallucination , madness and transformation. People of the age commented " the only convincing love story of our century." However, it was highly controversial novel. How could there be love between ageing character Humbert Humbert, an old obsessed of passion person and beautiful under aged nymphet? Our great poet laureate Laxmi Prashd Devkota wrote "Munamadan" showing the pure love between Muna and Madan. Madan who leaves his newly wed Muda at home and goes to Lasha for trade. Unfortunately, he becomes ill on the way and dies remembering Muna. Here at home, Muna dies due to the shock of Madan's death. John Milton, a blind English poet wrote  "faerie Queene" on the love between Red Cross Night and Una. Shakespeare wrote 154 sonnets on love addressing the dark lady. These are some examples of great love. But presentation of love and its psychology is vary. Can love demand sacrifice like the death of Romeo and Juliet? Why lovers become blind in love and couldn't see anything beyond their world of love? Why separation leads many of them towards suicide? We see people in the history converting the pain of separation into the creative force. Taj Mahal was built in the memory of Mumtaj by the king Sarjaha, Rani Mahal was built in the memory of Tejkumari by Khadka Samsher, Naran Gopal sang many songs after his separation with  Aiswarya Rajya Laxmi. And there are thousands of such examples. 

Today, we hear the news of suicide by the teenagers due to separation or, fail in love relation. Krishnamurti says such love is illusion. Sometimes it make me think about the culture we are learning from our seniors. We watch movies, we read books on love stories and so on. For me, these stuff impart wrong information to the public. When the hero of a story commits suicide at separation, it has been practiced in real by those who can't distinguish between fiction and reality. Why we are selling such harmful stuff misguiding the  youths. Separation gives pain and kills the hope of living at the moment. But, if it can be taken as a  natural process and unavoidable, it gives us power to survive. Plants sprout out at the place of landslides after a few days. Every wounds can be healed. But committing suicide is stupidity. It can't give justice to love.

There are two ways of separation. One is due to the failure of love relation. One party breaks up the relation and choose another. It's not a love. It's deception, infatuation and blinding passion. Another is due to death of one party. The latter is really painful situation. However, we all know death is powerful and we can't alter it. Then, why we fail to understand it and do injustice to our love. Here, I insert a short morel.

One time a beloved died and went to the heaven. The lover cried a lot. His dear didn't stop for a long period. One day he was watching stars in the sky, he saw seven girls carrying candles on their hands. Among them he saw his girl, but her candle was not lit. But other six candles were burning brightly. Then he asked her a question why her candle wasn't lit. In his question, she answered, " each time I lit, your tears fall on it". The moral of this story is "our tears darkens the path of the lost loved one's in the heaven."

Love is holy. It has no demand and expectation. But, today's society has commodified it. People rationalise love. Despite the union between two hearts, love is done with the union of two minds. In fact, mind always betrays the heart. Ask your heart if you're in love not to the mind.